Frustration of Love

 

Frustration

Sometimes we miss some of the simplest of truths. Jesus said unless you come as a child you will not see the Kingdom of Heaven. We call this childlike faith. We forget that we are all children something that time and maturity does not change. In our ignorance and in some cases arrogance we forget what it truly means to be a child. Am I greater than my creator? Ridiculous! By this we understand we will always be a child where as we will always need the Father to provide all we need pertaining to life and godliness and He is the only one who is able to provide. Early in life we learn some valuable lessons that shape our understanding of self and others. How we respond though shapes our view and consequently the direction in life we ultimately travel.

 

A newborn baby is needy. This is for sure and certain.  This child desires all things, asks (we may argue demands) all things, and has complete confidence that he will receive the things he is asking. This is due to the fact that eternity is placed in his heart where all things are provided upon asking, seeking, and knocking. There is never a denial in the place of God. We understand this in the phrase “the spirit of man returns to God who gave it form”. Slowly this child learns that there are beings other than self who must be considered. Such as the human condition here in this world we are born. Christ summed the Law written on our hearts as Love God and Love neighbor. This child learns that in this world there are things that it may not have or due and there are things that it may have and do. There is a protocol for conduct that is appropriate and it must be followed for justice and righteousness. If the child perceives that these denials are directed with love he becomes aware of the care, companionship, tenderness, nurturing, and concern. The response is extraordinary for the child becomes accustomed to consideration and mutual exchange. Love in this case builds character with understanding. Nevertheless if the child experiences malice and/or anger with each denial, then rejection and fear take root. Once this child’s reality is given fear, hate is born. People fears the things they think may hurt them, and once hurt; they hate not the action but the person or thing that causes the hurt. Elementary right. The challenge we face in this life is dealing with those times when rejection lacks love. This is appropriately call frustrating love.

 

We cannot control the actions of others. We can control our response and how we treat others. Fear of rejection and fear of hurt only continues the perpetual frustration of love. This is why we are told to love and pray for our enemies. They exhibit the same choice we have: fear or fear not. The question we don’t ask ourselves is who sees us as an enemy and why? Are we the enemy of others because of love? Most likely not. We have demonstrated a lack of love in a way that they either fear what we may do or that we look like someone who has done them wrong. Those who view us as an enemy have a high probability of viewing the whole world against them and live in a closet of fear, doubt and hate. Love conquers all. The question is do we believe this or are we doubtful and therefore fearful that this does not apply to us? We live in a messy world and around us there will always be hurt and suffering. Love though meets these with compassion, care and concern uniting us with the Christ and brings healing.

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How many buried hurts do you have – 10? 100?, 1000?, 10000?

 

This is like a farmer who has experience blight on his crops for decades. Every year at harvest time he sorts the good from the bad fruit discarding the diseased fruit and storing for market the good fruit. He spends more time sorting than the combined time of planting and harvesting. Consequentially he has very little to show for all his labor. Logic says that it would be more sensible for him to take preventive care at the time of planting by planting companion plants, rotating crops, and spraying the crops with pesticide. Further nurturing the crops with gentile cultivation, proper nutrition and irrigation will give a greater yield with far less work.

 

We can do all things through Christ who gives us strength. We do not need to search for love because we already have love in us. Love cries out to us for expression from deep with in our hearts. Love knows that it is reciprocal meaning to express it is to receive it. Suppress it and we starve ourselves of the thing we need. We think ourselves smart to build a fence around it and live in loneliness, pride and vanity. We only hurt ourselves by depriving the expression of love for love grants us all we need like a bud on a tree burst to expose the leaves that feed the whole plant. Love makes the world go and it will make you go too, let the hurt and fear go and let God. Frustrate Love no more!

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